Mother's are you overwhelmed?

Yesterday I read an alarming story.  The title was written in a way to be elusive.  Mother's tell!  Mother's tell their "deepest, darkest, secrets???"

The secrets ... well they are probably not what you would think them to be. Nor will you be surprised, if you are a mother, by them.  These are not the revealing of secret fantasies.  

In these tales mothers do not tell of their fantasies of  staring into space, dwelling on make believe stories of how their lives could have been better if they would have married Tom, Dick or Harry.

No these stories are alarming, a cry for help.  Proof that everyone needs someone to lean on, to carry them when they become the weak and weary. 

Sadly they were nothing knew to me.

I am a mother of seven.  I home school my kids.  I've been known {as you all can testify to} to become frustrated.  Overwhelmed by it all.

And I've learned that it's okay.  No longer do I try to hide my frustrations of being overwhelmed.  I am no longer the mother who feels that she needs to portray to the world and herself that she has it all together.  I don't.  I've now learned that no one does and no one ever will.

If we could have it and keep it all together, ladies, there would be no need of a Savior.  There would be no need for Jesus.

A survey was conducted on more than 26, 000 mothers by, thus the gathering of the confessions.

Side note for a minute, don't keep the secrets.  Secrets must be told otherwise they continue to hold the power over you.  

Empower yourself not the secret ... tell someone how overwhelmed you are. 

Tell it.  It really is okay.

Here are some of the secrets:

  • Nearly one if five moms admits medicating their child to get through a special event like a plane flight; one in 12 does it just to get some peace and quiet on a regular night.
  • Half have knowingly sent a sick kid to day care or school
  • Eighty-four percent use their kids to get out of social obligations.
  • Nearly one in three uses work as an excuse to avoid taking care of the kids.
Mothers remember "Forgiving yourself."

I think what keeps a lot of Christian mother's silent, especially home school Christian stay-at-home mothers quiet, is the fact that many see us as "the strong ones" "the spiritual ones."  You may have been told this for so long until you believe it yourself.  And that's fine.

You may be strong and spiritual ... but the fact is we shouldn't buy into labels that other's place on us because often we do our danrnest to live up to them, but we always fall short.  

Falling short makes us miserable not the one who has labeled us.

Should we strive to be and do our best, sure thing, but be cautious sister.  

Now you may be strong and spiritual, but even the strong and spiritual become weary.

Ladies the bottom line is that we're human.  Not "super human" just plain ol' human.

Do you remember this story: Jesus Feeds Five Thousand

 13Now when Jesus heard this, he withdrew from there in a boat to a desolate place by himself. But when the crowds heard it, they followed him on foot from the towns. 14When he went ashore he saw a great crowd, and he had compassion on them and healed their sick. 15Now when it was evening, the disciples came to him and said, "This is a desolate place, and the day is now over; send the crowds away to go into the villages and buy food for themselves." 16But Jesus said, "They need not go away;you give them something to eat." 17They said to him, "We have only five loaves here and two fish."18And he said, "Bring them here to me." 19Then he ordered the crowds to sit down on the grass, and taking the five loaves and the two fish, he looked up to heaven and said a blessing. Then he broke the loaves and gave them to the disciples, and the disciples gave them to the crowds. 20And they all ate and were satisfied. And they took up twelve baskets full of the broken pieces left over. 21And those who ate were about five thousand men, besides women and children.

Jesus had just finished caring for those He loved.  The very souls that He came to die for, but He needed to get away from them.  The Son of man needed a break.

Yes, Jesus needed rest.  Mother's we need rest too.

Don't fall into the "trap" of thingking you are "less" than a godly mother if you need to find peace and serenity.  I'm not talking about peace and serenity that one may think she will find a thousand  miles away.

Sometimes we can find what we need just by having a few mintues, to hours in the next room.  All day long, we give and we give and we give.  For those who work in any other capacity besides caring for the home and kids, you are taxed just that much more.

Mothering is a noble, loving job, but it's a hard job nonetheless.

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. ~ Matt. 11:28
I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint.  ~ Jeremiah 31:24
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This post is linked to: Raising Homemakers, Our Simple Country life , Women Living Well, Always Learning

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